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i think cutting is cutting. so even if there is only a little blood that is still considered cutting, because it is the start that can become an addiction xx

hey love! try not to worry too much about these things, dont let it stop you from going on camps etc. 

if you have trouble sleeping try to listen to some clam/relaxing music on your ipod. im sorry i dont have much advice on this, but try to stay calm and take a few big breaths when you start to get anxious. 

the more you tell yourself that you are anxious the more you will believe it, so try not to think about it xx

its always hard when you dont know what is making you sad because you dont know how to directly fix the problem. try to talk to someone close to you or  your parents or someone you trust. talk to them and open up, it always makes things better when they know what is going on in your head, also read my steps to happiness they can also help xx

hey beautiful

first of all, people are always going to judge other people. it doesnt matter if you are tall, short, skinny, overweight, smart, stupid, or anything else. they will always try to label you to put you down. dont ever listen to these labels. they are not what you are. yes you may be skinny or yes you may be larger than other people, but appearance is not what counts. What counts is being nice to other people and hopefully and return they will be nice to you. 

I think everybody goes through a stage where they hate themselves, but it can only be a stage. Try to say positive things to yourself every day. you can also check out my steps to happiness page (which may help). It is so so so important to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner. These three meals give you the nutrition you need to stay alive! Without these you will start to have problems with your body. You will start to get tired, and may start fainting. If you continue not to eat you will have to go to hospital. Your body will not function well and you could end up dieing. So i again tell you IT IS SO IMPORTANT. Its not worth trying to look skinnier. It is not worth going through the physical and emotional pain. Trust me, when you are skinny you still have the same problems. Just because your weight changes it doesnt mean that your life will. 

I think it is good that your mum has realised that you are not eating normally. You need to go to her and tell her how you feel. Please do this as soon as you can. Dont feel embarrassed or anything. She is your mum and she can help you through this. 

No. not all the other girls have thigh gaps. So many people dont have them. And you dont want to see your ribs. You dont need to see your ribs to be pretty and you dont need to have thigh gabs to be pretty.

You may want to go and see a councillor. they can help you. Please try and eat. Start eating small meals/snacks if it is hard for you to start eating normally straight away. Make your breakfast the biggest meal of the day, then smaller and lunch, then the smallest meal at dinner. Eat lots of fruit for snacks, drink a litre of water every day, and make sure you get your meat, vegetables, carbohydrates and everything etc.. so make sure you get your vitamins. make sure you eat enough! exercise as well everyday for about 30 min. and get to sleep early. Please listen to me and eat. I know it sounds hard but once you get back into eating it will get easier and easier.  

1.     listen to happy music that is positive

(Beachy kinda music, happy songs, songs that are inspirational, songs that make you smile, songs that are relaxing. Make a playlist and try to listen to these songs as often as possible. If you listen to these songs you will start to feel relaxed, happy and feel like yourself again.) 

2.     Create a book with quotes/pictures/memories

(You can look at this when you are feeling down so that you can remember how amazing this world is. Fill this book with happy/inspirational quotes; pictures that inspire you, friends or family, places you have been that remind you of good memories. Do not put anything in this book that will make you feel upset or remind you of anything that you dislike in your life. Make it personal and you can read through it every night before you sleep.)

3.     Wear bright coloured clothing

(It is always good to go through your clothes and wear some that are colourful. They do not have to be too bright, just try not to wear greys and blacks and make it interesting.) 

4.     Do some exercise

(Go for a run or do some yoga because it will honestly always make you feel better. If you have had a bad day, go for a run or play a sport that you are interested in. The energy you put into doing that exercise will take your mind off what is going on in your life, and it will leave you with a positive mind, clear and free, and you will also become fit.)

5.     Smile everyday

(Have signs or sticky notes in your bedroom/in the bathroom/on the fridge/on your computer which say “smile” reminding you to smile all the time. Smiling automatically changes your mood to being happy. Even though it is hard to smile it is much better for you and you will be more positive. Also smile at other people because they will always smile back at you. Pass it on J. Don’t you want to be remembered as the person who always smiles?

6.     Talk more

(Say “hi” to people and ask how they are doing. People like it when you notice them and talk to them. Making people happy also makes you happy. Talking more often will also make you less isolated from everyone. It helps you to be more social and confident, which then boosts your self-esteem.)

7.     Cuddle with a teddy

(It is a fact that when you feel lonely, cuddling a teddy bear makes you feel less lonely.)

8.     Eat chocolate

(It has some ingredients that help you feel better when you are sad.) 

9.     Sing

(Everybody can sing. It doesn’t matter if you are not as good as other people. Sing songs around the house. Try to sing happy songs to change your mood to happy. Singing songs that are sad, lonely or violent will just make your problems feel worse.)

10.   Get a hobby

(Getting a hobby gives you something to do and something to achieve. It also lets you spend time on something instead of wasting time on something else that is not important – like sitting on your computer. They are a lot of hobbies including

· Singing

· Drawing

· knitting

· scrapbooking

· playing the piano

· playing sport

· learning a language (for fun)

· dancing

· writing

· sewing

· cooking

· cycling

· swimming

· photography

· Leaf and petal pressing (get a book and take a leaf or petal from a flower and place it in a thick book, then come back the next day and it will be flat. You could paste it into your book that is filled with quotes/pictures.)

if it helps you more, print out the steps (that are bolded) and stick them somewhere so you can read them everyday as a reminder 

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hey love, yes i do remember you and IM SO SORRY this has taken me so long to answer. 

please dont cry, i know this is hard to do but crying will only make your situation feel even worse. try to have a positive attitude and remember that these stretch marks are only on the outside. what you are inside is what counts.

you can try bio oil. remember that they will start to fade in time if the product works. after a few weeks if you dont see any progress go and see a doctor so that they might be able to give you some sort of medication or help you to get rid of your stretch marks xx

listen to me

yes they will. right now it feels like nobody notices, or nobody cares? does it feel like nobody will notice if you are gone? 

im sorry but that is NOT true. they first people to notice will be your family. they will cry for the rest of their lives thinking that it was their fault and they couldn’t help you. think about your friends. a part of their lives will be missing and they will always remember you. everybody will be hurt, they may cry out loud or deap down they will break inside and think that something they said made you do kill yourself, or something they did made you leave. they will hold that guilt for the rest of their lives. 

so think about that. people will notice even if it seems like they wont. 

i said the exact same thing a few years ago, if you want to talk off anon i would be happy to help you more. stay strong and i want you to know that things do get better, maybe not today or the next week or in a while but they honestly do and i have proof of that. i was depressed a few years ago and i came out of it because i didnt give up, so i believe that you can too xx

thats okay! you can come to me anytime you need. 

so she hasnt replied to your text? give it some time and i know thats hard but you did call her when you were drunk so she might be a little annoyed or maybe scared. its really hard sometimes. i know how you feel. its hard to move on but sometimes it turns out better in the end. everything happens for a reason. maybe just dont talk to her and try and not look back, but instead look forward. but remember you have to decide. its not up to me to tell you if you should move on or not. if she doesnt reply then i guess you have to move on. i care, i seriously do, if you need more help just message me xx

listen you are not a horrible person and its okay to think about your ex all the time. send her a text anyways saying your sorry just so you can clear that all up :) everybody wants things that they cant have, its natural. if you like this other girl in your life then that is good that you have someone so make her happy <3 dont worry about it but make sure you text your ex! 

okay first text her saying that you are really sorry about what happened. say that you were drunk and tell her that you are sorry that you were annoying her. maybe tell her that you do still have feelings for her but that was not the way you wanted her to find out.

leave her to reply. dont worry if she doesnt reply straight away. give her some space. if she doesnt reply or talk to you for ages send her another message asking her if you two will still be friends and talk, hope this helps! xx